Can I work with someone else's VAT ID?

This isn't possible.

No, this is not allowed. A VAT ID is registered as a sole proprietorship, which means that only the owner of the sole proprietorship works in the business. It is also not allowed for family members to work with your VAT ID. Would you like more information? Please contact the Tax Authorities. 

* You could get into problems with the Belastingdienst if you let someone else work with your VAT-ID!